I have been paying so much attention lately to how kids learn through play & I've realised that in our dismissive, busy, serious adult lives we can miss SO MANY opportunities to connect, guide & model empathy to our kids!! A few examples I've become aware of.
1. Today, Mila was playing with a little toy while laying on the bed. She dropped it, it hit her head, she thought it was so funny. Then, she wanted to do the same to me but hit my forehead quite hard with it. I stayed silent because it actually really hurt, I didn't trust myself to be anything other than reactive. After a minute she started role playing, talking as the fairy. We talked about how Mila wanted to drop it on my head like hers, she didn't mean to hurt mummy & could fairy cuddle me to help me feel better. If I reacted out of anger/fear I would have missed this opportunity!
2. Mila pretends to be sick, asks me to, or her baby's are at least 15 times a day. My logic adult brain initially didn't want to play along. Then I realised, this is a perfect opportunity to display empathy & compassion. So if she does it 50 times a day, I respond exactly the same way, everytime! I am teaching her how to take care of someone. I was hospitalised a few months back & having her by my side, late at night was nothing other than comforting. She was offering me water, heat packs, rubbing my back & just genuinely making sure I was OK. 💞
3. She throws her toys on the floor sometimes. Initially I wanted to react, tell her to not to. Fear that she would think it's OK to do this when older, fear she would break something (natural consequence if she does 🤷♂️). She does this so they can 'hurt their knee' & she can check they're OK & put a bandaid on them.
I get curious instead of fearful.
I choose to see the lesson in everything instead of the inconvenience.
My little free spirit.
Love watching her grow ✨❣️